To: @hotmail.com
Subject: I am sorry
Date: Wed, 14 Mar 2007 17:42:05 -0500
>Dear Dawn;
>
>At a court hearing today; when I was leaving; Mary Ellen and Chrissy
>indicated (I am saying this is a nice way; they were not nice) That
>I was NOT to e-mail you or talk to you. I didn't know I had said
>anything that offended you and I apoligize if I did. I do Know I
>sent a notice about my walking in the "Walk for LIfe" this year; (As
>you have and I have donated to) and I added your mom's name as one
>of the people I was walking in memory of. It that offends you;
>please let me know. I will take her name off my contribution page.
>I think I may have sent a few cards to you and when your grandfather
>died in respect.
>
>I talk to Kara, Kim, Chris etc all the time; I didn't know your
>father's family could decide who I was to be able to talk to. You
>didn't let me know you were offended.
>
>I can't imagine anything else that I have done that warrented them
>telling me I could not contact you. Again; I am very sorry; if I
>did or said something it was totally unintentional; and all you had
>to do is tell me. Laurie
>
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>"People are unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Love them
>anyway. If you do good, people may accuse you of selfish motives. Do
>good anyway. If you are successful, you may win false friends and
>true enemies. Succeed anyway. The good you do today may be forgotten
>tomorrow. Do good anyway. Honesty and transparency make you
>vulnerable. Be honest and transparent anyway. What you spend years
>building may be destroyed overnight. Build anyway. People who really
>want help may attack you if you help them. Help them anyway. Give
>the world the best you have and you may get hurt. Give the world
>your best anyway."
>-- Mother Teresa
RE: I am sorry
| From: | Dawn @otmail.com) |
| Sent: | Wed 3/14/07 11:25 PM |
| To: | @msn.com |
Laurie,
I'm not really sure where to start. I'm going to try and be as civil and grown up as I can, but apparently you don't want to do things in a grown up way. I've never known an adult to behave the way that you do, and I'm sorry to know that I was at one time related to such a person. Did you not wonder why I never responded to any of the cards or emails that you sent? For one, when on Earth did you ever acknowledge my existence as I was growing up? I simply couldn't figure out why you would all of a sudden try to befriend me of all people. And let me clear it up, YES I AM OFFENDED by you and no, your apology will not be accepted at this time, because, I do not feel it is heartfelt. I feel that your "apology" is one of two things...A) Your way of trying to drive a wedge between me and my actual family or B) Your underhanded way of calling me a coward because I hide behind Chrissy and Mary Ellen who make decisions of who I can talk to. When you feel truly sorry, let me know.
Now, why am I offended? In your emails to me, you told me how you felt like my mom and how you visit her grave to talk to her. I really would like you to stop that. It is offensive to me and to her. When my mother was alive, you treated her like crap. She felt like an outcast around you and there were times when we came home from family gatherings that she came crying to me, (I was her confidant), because she just didn't understand why you hated her so much. You wouldn't talk to her, include her, and she couldn't figure out what she did to deserve this treatment. So how dare you go to her now? Let my mother rest in peace. At least give her that dignity!
And please stop comparing yourself to her. The only thing you two ever had in common was that you left your husbands. That's IT! You did it for entirely different reasons. And mom only asked for compensation when the jerk that she dated pushed her to. If Dad had been sick like my uncle OR if he had been the one to get cancer, my mom would have been there supprting him every step of the way. She would have seen it as a fullfillment of her vows. It's also the right thing to do. As it was, at the end, my parents reconciled and when she died, he WAS her husband. He AND his family, which you seem to think of as awful people, did everything they could to help her. My parents separation was the not the vindictive witch hunt/martyrism that you are turning YOUR divorce into. My mother would be appalled to know how you are handling the divorce. She didn't want to punish anyone. Mom-mom drove mom and I to Georgetown for doctor's appointments because she couldn't drive and I was not in any condition to do so. Dad opened our home up to her because it was closer to the hospital and took her to Mary Ellen's to relax in a jet tub. Mary Ellen, Heather, and Mommom arranged things so that I could stay up at Georgetown and have a place to sleep and a shower during that awful week. So these people that you are doing your best to turn into villans are trully some of the most loving/open hearted people. My mother loved them from the time she met them and she would be upset at how you treat them. DO NOT EVER COMPARE YOURSELF TO HER AGAIN. She was open and loving and you are cruel.
Now, as to why I never responded to your earlier attempts to contact me; I simply figured you were an annoyance that if ignored, would go away. We never had a relationship, ever. Why on earth would you think that we could have one now? I may not have had the closest relationship with my father, but even when they were separated, my mom encouraged me to have a relationship with him. Your younger kids really anger me. I feel they just weren't raised right, or maybe you are that vindictive and hateful that you encourage them to turn away from their father. Maybe I'm out of place to say these things, but you wanted me to respond to you, so I'm going to give you my opinion. I see parents do this all the time to their kids, and it's really wrong. Parents should leave their kids out of their problems.
I wanted to just ignore your emails and cards. I thought it was more adult than getting into a mud slinging match with someone who had been down in the mud so long that she couldn't possibly see clearly any longer. But when someone implies that I hide behind more vocal people in my family, I come out swinging. I was a shy child, but caring for my sick mother and dealing with an asshole boyfriend, doctors, and nurses, I found my voice. I'm a very forgiving person. Hell, I'm the kid whose mom kicked her out of her house because I couldn't get along with the asshole boyfriend, but was the same kid who as soon as sick mom had no place to go, opened my doors wide without hesitation. I don't know if I can ever forgive the offense you've caused me or the pain you have caused my family.
And I'm going to warn you now. Don't ever email Katie again. I don't know if she responded to you, but I'm sure I could find you her response to your email on her web page. Trust me, she expresses her anger toward you in much more colorful vocabulary than I used here. NO, Katie isn't hiding behind family either. Don't make that mistake again. You were granted a divorce. BE DIVORCED, MOVE THE HELL ON. This is what YOU wanted, leave all of us the HELL ALONE. Trust me, if we ever wanted to talk to you again, we'd let you know, but don't hold your breath. I wouldn't want you to turn blue and pass out.
Was that a clear enough response for you?
Dawn
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