This pretty much says it all:

The blame game is a dangerous trap. It is never won. It takes prisoners for life. And it escalates until all memory of love is scorched and blows away, ashes to ashes. So it will go. One family against another. There is nothing to be gained, and much to be lost, especially for the children left behind. When the ashes settle, the only thing that’s clear is that we still do not appreciate — or respect — the brutal reality of mental illness